Chin up

It's not the load that breaks you down, it's the way you carry it.

~ Lena Home

It's scary how easy it is to feel sorry for yourself. When things aren't going the way you want them to, self-pity is a very enticing emotion. With so many sayings like "Mind over matter" and books like The Secret which preach positive visualization, it still seems like a logical option to take time to really wallow in negativity and grief.

I feel very fortunate that my life has been fairly "uneventful" in respect to tragic events. I have all my limbs intact, my heart was never broken beyond repair, and I am surrounded by people who love me; however, there have definitely been some testing moments where I have found myself broken down with grief and feeling completely hopeless. Pets have always been regarding as a member of the family, so having to deal with their passing was always very difficult. I've had my share of injuries that have threatened my desire to dance and be athletically active. Seeing my parents struggle and being helpless to assist them has definitely taken its toll.

But in the end, I've always made it through and continued to live a wonderful life. I can argue that a moment or two of self-pity is not as damaging to one's outlook and healing as a constant wallowing may be. In fact, I think it's natural to feel sorry for yourself. The important thing is to keep it all in perspective and realize there is always a lesson to be learned - a test of inner-strength. Sure, life's tough, but what are you going to do about it? How you handle those challenges is what makes you a stronger person.

To sir, with love

Any man can be a father. It takes someone special to be a dad.
~Author Unknown

Teaching in a high-poverty school district, I encountered several single-mom families. Some of my students talked about their dads who were in jail, others mentioned never knowing their dad at all. Looking through their official school files, I discovered many had birth certificates that didn't even list a name in the place a father should be. I heard a few stories that completely broke my heart, knowing these children were lacking a father figure of any kind.

Needless to say, I gained a new appreciation for my dad - a man who will never give himself enough credit for being a wonderful father. From early childhood to the present, I have so many fantastic memories of times when my dad has made a positive impact in my life. It's a well-known fact in my family that I am a total "Mommy's girl", but I have always considered my relationship with my dad to be completely special in its own way. I know I can call him anytime I need advice about cars, computers, taxes, credit cards, home appliances, or anything life may toss my way. He has spoiled me with material things all my life yet has shown me the important things in life don't cost a dime. I can count on him to love and support me, no matter what, which is probably the greatest gift a parent could offer.

I'm so proud of my dad has he rolls with the punches of life and surges ahead. He is an excellent role model in many ways, and I hope I will have half his determination when I am his age. I love my daddy, and I know he loves me!